Applying the PUNCH-LINE Approach as a Busy Mom

For the past month I’ve been intentionally using the PUNCH-LINE Approach to lose weight, while solo-parenting a toddler, with my husband out of town for months, in a new city with no friends or family, during a pandemic. 

I decided to not be the victim of any of these circumstances.

I got still and relaxed my nervous system enough to finally see what was making me anxious, depressed, emotionally eat, yell at my sweet boy, and blame my amazing husband.

What was it? MY THOUGHTS!

Here’s how all of this works…

Presence – I practiced the pause. Took lots of deep breaths and noticed all of the thoughts that were toxic to my wellbeing and flooded the house with negative energy that I’m sure my son was reacting to and wreaking havoc on my body.

Unveil – I saw all the old stories from past childhood trauma, relationship trust issues, self-loathing. For over a year I’ve strongly believed I couldn’t lose weight while breastfeeding. I believed motherhood was too hard. I believed I was alone, not enough, and too much.

Navigate – I moved from blaming my husband for my loneliness, my household hardships, my daily duties being so hard. I stopped reacting to my son’s whining and throwing food on the floor and responded with grace.

Create – I intentionally took time out of my evening when my son was sleeping to visualize what I wanted in life, who I wanted to be, and what I wanted to feel.

How – I took aligned action. I took many different actions from a place of self-love, compassion, forgiveness, and true love for my family, friends, clients I want to serve, and the world. I started to look for ways to move my body, not because I need to punish it for being “bad” but to CELEBRATE myself. I looked for healthy, nutritious food to eat, not to deprive myself but to NOURISH myself. I spent late nights not hustling for my worth in the world but writing and expressing myself. Most important action was asking for help, being vulnerable and willing to be coached to dismantle my own BS.

Results?

-12 pound loss in weight in one month

-beautiful, open, honest, and intimate conversations with people I love

-inspiring people in my circle, many blog posts, many late night private messages, many phone calls…true connection and expression.

I’m so thankful that Kim has condensed this process to a simple to use step-by-step system so that anyone can start anywhere, at any time.

Even overweight, lethargic, busy moms who are solo-parenting a toddler, in a new environment, during a pandemic.

E A S E & F L O W

This week I’m sharing my favorite quotes from the SECOND half of the book, The PUNCH-LINE Approach, by my very own Coach and Mentor, Kim Guillory. I’m also sharing my own experience in doing this work, as each of the chapters is a step in the process to personal transformation. Enjoy!


Have you ever noticed a moment in your life where everything seemed to be going smoothly? The stars aligned for you, at least in that moment? Or maybe you’ve even had a series of things just falling into place?

Perhaps you’ve felt the opposite, where everything seems to be falling apart? Everything is against you and you just keep seeing problem after problem?

It’s all part of the whole human experience. Each scenario is FOR you. A gift.

One gift is when people, places, and events happen to show you what you need to bring to the surface to heal. What is this mirroring in your heart and mind? What can you learn here?

One gift is when people, places, and events happen to show you that you’re in line with your natural essence, with your thoughts, feelings, and actions, bringing to you what you truly desire.

That is Ease & Flow. When you’re tapped into the Source of all Love and Divinity, you’re moving through life from your Natural Essence and you see life through a new lens.

Those micro-aggravations that turn into huge emotions don’t seem to bother you so much. “That” coworker doesn’t set you off on Monday mornings anymore.

Things happening “out there” stop affecting your peace “in here”.

Through the PUNCH-LINE process you start to brings dreams into reality you’re now living. You align your “someday” or “that would be nice” ideas into “it’s inevitable” and “it’s happening now”.

We drop the judgements, comparisons, BS beliefs, programming, etc. We create NEW neural pathways in the brain. We establish new routines, new ways of being, out of becoming a new person.

We become the calm in the storm as we flow through life, learning the lessons we signed up to learn before we were born, helping others along the way.

Living in Ease & Flow is possible, my friends.

N A T U R A L E S S E N C E

This week I’m sharing my favorite quotes from the SECOND half of the book, The PUNCH-LINE Approach, by my very own Coach and Mentor, Kim Guillory. I’m also sharing my own experience in doing this work, as each of the chapters is a step in the process to personal transformation. Enjoy!


When I think of my “natural essence” I imagine little girl Emily who simply wanted to play, entertain, have fun, learn, and experience all of life. Before the societal programming and conditioning. Before she learned that she was too much or not enough. Before she learned that what she wanted wasn’t attainable.

I think of that pureness, that childlike faith, that imagination and creativity. She just wants to come out and celebrate life!

What happened was she interpreted life’s circumstances incorrectly as her fault, that she was bad, she wasn’t doing what she was supposed to by fitting in with everyone else’s ideas of her. She grew up stifling her desires, emotions, passions with food, alcohol and drugs, and later toxic relationships, overworking, debt, chronic fatigue and illness, more overeating, depression and anxiety.

The core of who I am has been here all along. She’s coming out more and more each day as I follow this process and heal all the wounded parts and bring her back to wholeness.

The natural essence of who I AM is the unique expression of Divinity and Love.

This work is to start living from this place, leaving programming, judgements, and comparisons behind, still part of the story yes, but no longer necessary.

What is your natural essence? Are you living your life from that place?

I N T E G R A T I O N

This week I’m sharing my favorite quotes from the SECOND half of the book, The PUNCH-LINE Approach, by my very own Coach and Mentor, Kim Guillory. I’m also sharing my own experience in doing this work, as each of the chapters is a step in the process to personal transformation. Enjoy!


I think we would all agree that we’re mostly searching for a whole, balanced, and calm state of being in this life. Rather than the elusive “pursuit of happiness” I would much rather be content in a state of wellbeing versus trying to be happy all of the time.

From this overall balanced and integrated state I feel empowered to handle anything life throws at me…or gifts me, I should say. 😉

There are eight different parts of our lives that we should examine and work towards integrating into our own, whole self.

  • Mental
  • Emotional
  • Physical
  • Financial
  • Occupational
  • Intellectual
  • Social
  • Spiritual

How would you rate each area in your life?

If any of these are out of balance or suffering the whole suffers along with it.

When we do the work integrate each of these parts of our lives with the core of who we are, our personality, beliefs, desires, passion, and purpose, we can achieve that calm state of wellbeing.

If you’ve been reading from the beginning of this series, you know the work starts with Presence, Unveiling, and Navigating, over and over to rewrite your brain and its neural pathways in order to create anything new in your life.

As you get better at doing this self-healing work you become more present with yourself and you can start to recognize when something is off and move through something tough much more quickly. Days or weeks versus YEARS.

I have been working on myself, with self-coaching tools, and getting coached one-on-one for years and the quality of my life is exponentially better than it was before. Not because I suddenly won the manifestation lottery by getting married and having a baby, or quitting my job to be a stay-at-home Mom and Life Coach, my dream career. No, all of those circumstances are awesome but do not make me happy. This personal work, challenging myself, and healing all of the old wounds is what brings me back to wholeness. To my complete Natural Essence. The Emily that was born to shine a light and serve a beautiful purpose.

“How you anything is how you do everything” is a popular phrase in our coaching group and rings true for this topic. When you’re stressed out and chaotic in one area of your life it will for sure affect the others. Might as well do this work to clear out the old drama and feel at peace. Wouldn’t you rather live your life from your Natural Essence?

L E G A CY

This week I’m sharing my favorite quotes from the SECOND half of the book, The PUNCH-LINE Approach, by my very own Coach and Mentor, Kim Guillory. I’m also sharing my own experience in doing this work, as each of the chapters is a step in the process to personal transformation. Enjoy!


Now that you know the P U N C H process, we can take a look at the L I N E which is all about Results!

What does all of this work on yourself mean to you? What do you want out of this precious life? What is your purpose? What do you want to leave behind?

These are some heavy questions, huh? This is the work of our lives. Creating, re-creating, learning, un-learning. What is it all for?

YOU get to decide all of it.

YOU can write your story.

YOU can create your Legacy.

If you could write your own eulogy today, what would you say?

For me, I want to have loved and been loved. I want to have experienced my dreams coming to life. I want to have come out of my shell, my cocoon, and shone brilliantly the inner Me that wants to play, and was stifled for too long.

As a Mother, a Wife, a Daughter, a Sister, a Friend…a WOMAN, I want to be authentic, in all of my mess AND my glory.

Who do you want to be?